Emotional availability is an everyday phrase for being reachable, attentive, and willing to engage with feelings. It can look different across relationships and can shift with stress, trust, health, and recent events.
This informal quiz uses original scenarios to help you reflect on openness, responsiveness, presence, and comfort with emotional conversation.
It cannot measure relationship quality, predict longevity, or determine how a partner experiences you. A self-report answer is only one perspective and may change with context.
Answer from recent, specific situations rather than from an ideal version of yourself.
Accessibility
Can your partner actually reach you — emotionally, not just physically?
Responsiveness
When your partner is hurting, do you respond to the emotion — or to the content?
Engagement
Do you actively invest in the emotional depth of your relationship?
Vulnerability
Can you let your partner see the parts of you that feel uncertain, scared, or unfinished?
Most powerful when taken as a couple
Have your partner take this separately, then compare results. The gap between how emotionally available you think you are and how available your partner experiences you to be is one of the most important conversations in any relationship.
Scale: 1 = Strongly Disagree → 5 = Strongly Agree. Some questions are reverse-scored — this is intentional.